Somewhere along the line, the people I see as adults have become the same age, or younger, than I am!

I still see myself as a child and them as adults, and I’m always surprised when I remember that I am one of them.

This brings me to an interesting conclusion, from my new adult-insider perspective: The adults have no idea what they’re doing… they never have.

This takes some pressure off of me to know what I’m doing as an adult. But it leads to a new pressure: not to know what I’m doing — I don’t — but to pretend that I do.

Pretending to know what you’re doing takes a lot of energy. And I’m not willing to give my energy to pretending.

So this leads to a new challenge: I must be willing to walk through life with the nagging feeling that I am the only one who has no idea what he is doing.

It’s challenging, but it also presents a great opportunity. If I am willing to be honest about my not–knowing, I will lead those around me toward a more genuine expression of adulthood — one where we carry the huge responsibility of adulthood while not having any idea how. This type of adulthood doesn’t require us to know; it requires us to trust.

Faith and hope — not knowing what you’re doing — are the defining characteristics of a mature adult.

What an amazing difference embracing this type of adulthood will make for us and our culture… especially for the kids are growing up now and looking to us to see what it means to be an adult.